January 14th, 2011

{parenting} Food, Kids and Body Image: My Own

kids food and body issues

Earlier this week I wrote about whether healthy family eating can help fight the growing eating disorder problem among young kids. Today, I’m getting more specific. And flipping the script by talking about my body image issues.

In a One Hungry Mama first (she says nervously), I’ve written an essay about how my sons have helped me confront my food issues.

Yup, folks, I went there. I’m telling the world how I really feel about my body, as a mom of boys (specifically opposed to girls) and as someone who cooks all the time. It’s complicated stuff, being a woman who doesn’t fit the ideal image of beauty raising two boys and loving food the way I do. But, thanks to my sons, I know that what I need to do to feel good is not complicated. (Just hard.)

This was a challenge to write, but I hope that saying these things out loud helps maybe even just one of you. And myself:

My Body Image, My Boys

8 Responses

  1. Laura says:

    Wow what a very deep thing to write about …… thank you! Although i am not a mum of 2 boys but of 2 girls i really felt as though i could relate to a lot of what you say about your body image and how it could effect your sons as they grow. Myself even before having children and even as a child myself just wanted to be that few kg’s lighter and since having kids feel fantastic about the way i look but still wish i was that few kg’s lighter. My girls are only 2 1/2 and 6 months old and i want to thank you for writing this and making me realize that the ‘Drama’ that goes on daily while i try to choose and outfit that’d not too clingy here and doesn’t make a bulge there is not what my girls should grow up thinking is ‘Normal’ by any means.

  2. Thank you for you authenticity!

  3. Damaris says:

    I believe that your body image will affect your kids. We don’t live in isolation, specially in a family. Way to go for being honest and willing to think critically about this issue.

  4. Betsy says:

    This essay really struck a chord with me. I have daughters and don’t want to pass down my angst to them. But that is easier said than done given how children seem to mainline our stress whether we know we’re showing it or not. I commented on this over at Babble, under the name numbmum. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Stacie, this is honest and wise and so necessary. Thank you for speaking up and out for many women, mothers, who have wrestled with these very issues.

    Your sons are rather lucky, you know. Great job!

  6. One Hungry Mama says:

    Thank you all for your comments here and on Babble. I so appreciate it! xo

  7. Rosie says:

    Thank you for such a sincere article.

  8. I’m so glad you did this. I’m bigger than I was before I had a baby, but the craziest thing is that I no longer care. And believe me, I cared a TON before (and was obsessed with weight when I was in my twenties and was a size 6 – still wouldn’t wear a bathing suit even then). Now I do. I guess I’m too busy to be bothered, and wouldn’t dare let my daughter hear me complain about something as silly as my “being fat.” Which I’m not. I will admit to wearing more spandex though. .

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